Category: Life Lessons


It was only a matter of time: The President issued a sweeping wave of commutations and a blanket pardon that absolved all the January 6 rioters, effectively undoing what many considered the most extensive criminal investigation in U.S. history. Defending his decision, Trump claimed the pardons were warranted, arguing that individuals committing violent crimes in other cities often go unpunished. He stated that he showed compassion to those whom authorities had improperly treated, insisting, “Their lives were destroyed.”

But what of the lives lost?

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NY Times Guest Opinion writer Robert Rubin stated, “If You’re Worried About the Future of Our Country, Do Something About It.” Civic engagement in issues beyond the immediate scope of one’s professional and personal life for the greater good is more critical than ever. Further, Rubin noted that widespread engagement is especially needed when democracies like America face threats from autocracies abroad and intense social and political strain at home.

Sipping my coffee for a few minutes and gazing toward the horizon, “Bullshit. Not happening: been there, done that.”

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Not Medically Necessary

I separated the curtains from my bed. From the 46th floor, I watched the rain drizzle down the window, winced, and rolled back into one of several comfortable positions. My body hurts. I spiritually hurt. I am mentally hurt. No longer able to pray kneeling, I offered today’s queloque from a fetal position. “God, will I die before my health insurance cancels me?”

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Trump won a second term in the White House thanks, in part, to a spike in support across several demographic groups, including a record-breaking jump among Latino voters. An NBC News exit poll of voters in 10 states — including Arizona, Florida and Texas showed Trump captured 55% of the Latino male vote. It’s the first time the demographic has sided with a Republican in a presidential election. This happened despite Trump surrogates uttering anti-Latino jokes at rallies and despite Trump’s promises to not only deport undocumented immigrants but also to revoke birthright citizenship — a privilege more than a few rancho libertarians were blessed with. Maybe these voters slid toward machismo, misogyny, or aspirational whiteness. Maybe it’s stupidity.

November 5th is the day I stopped believing in America and my fellow citizens. Plain and simple. Period.

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E-Day +2

Election Day, plus 2. My anger and frustration remained high at noon. At noon today, I mentally exclaimed, “Fuck it. I am done.”

For fourteen years, I have poured my heart and energy into becoming not just a better person, but a pillar in my community. I have participated in food drives, organized free health clinics, supported cancer groups, and assisted countless patients at local hospitals. I fought tirelessly for vaccines, masks, and essential healthcare. I advocated for mental health and Alzheimer’s care, for the right to a meal, the end of book bans, religious freedom, and support for the marginalized. I championed education and women’s rights.

Election Day, plus 2, I ask myself: For what?

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House Speaker Mike Johnson and Elon Musk have given Americans a preview of the sweeping changes a potential Trump presidency could bring to healthcare and government spending. Speaking in Pennsylvania, Johnson vowed “massive” healthcare reform in Trump’s first 100 days if elected, promising a major overhaul to address issues he says were created by Obamacare. Johnson emphasized that healthcare reform would be a critical priority, signaling a commitment to reshaping America’s healthcare system as part of an aggressive legislative agenda.

Elon Musk, who Trump has promised would oversee government “efficiency,” offered a stark perspective on the broader fiscal impacts, predicting a period of “temporary hardship” for Americans under Trump’s plan to address the national debt. In a recent virtual town hall, Musk outlined that tackling this issue would require tax code changes and major spending cuts, which may impact Americans financially in the short term. He argues that these sacrifices are essential for “long-term prosperity,” implying a significant reconfiguration of government spending aimed at reducing the deficit.

The message each men want Americans to expect from a potential second Donald Trump presidency is simple: expect to suffer.

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Less than two weeks to November 5th, our national Election Day. If you’re a hardy soul, you listened to stories of immigrants eating pets in Springfield, Ohio, the dehumanization of one candidate or another, the dehumanization of deceased Veterans, a candidate dancing for 39 minutes, rambling, word salads, more rambling, candidates with likely dementia if not Alzhimer’s symptoms, tariffs, former administrative staffs calling out their boss(s), horror stories from the front lines Roe V. Wade, ‘drill baby drill,’ racism, radical left, radical right, racism, socialism, nationalism, nepotism, no-bism’s, slipped-ism’s, left-out-ism’s, toilet-ism’s and genitalia. What we didn’t hear was answers to complex questions.  

Here are the questions I wished candidates answered.

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Less than two weeks to November 5th, election day, and polls are nearly dead even. If you’re undecided, flip a coin, toss cards into a hat with the winner taking two of three, or use a crystal ball and gaze for affirmation. You could receive counsel from Lee Greenwood (the Trumpian Bible made in China) or listen to Emime. One could read tea leaves, listen to the wind, or study astrological skies. We could roll dice, cast lots, pray, analyze ancient scripture, or beg karma for wisdom. However, God left it to us, and why it’s this close is beyond me.

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The vehicle for my mother’s lease was ending, so the big task for February 12th was to visit the Honda dealer. After several hours of weighing the pros and cons, she purchased her current Civic HR-V. The night had already swallowed the remaining daylight, and we decided to have dinner at the International House of Pancakes (IHOP). After receiving our meal, we sat in the corner booth, and she asked for details about Light Chain Deposition Disease (LCDD). It wasn’t the conversation I thought about having at an IHOP over scrambled eggs, but I provided high-level information about LCDD, testing, and symptoms. “Well, hopefully, they’ll eradicate it from you this year.”

“Mom, I am terminal. It’s unclear when, maybe in 6 months or maybe ten years, but unless some miracle pops on the horizon, LCDD will likely end my life. Doctors hope to keep my body at its current level of dysfunction.”

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A Cranky Heart

When cancer weaves its way into one’s life, the impacts can be significant. After working in the health car business for 23 years, I was neglectful of my health. I change my perspective after a cranky heart let me know, in no uncertain terms, that I am a piss-poor model for proactive healthcare advocate. I scheduled a quick trip to Tucson, AZ, to assist my mother with some financial matters. The journey from Ohare International to Tucson Internal began with hastily packing on Friday. I went to the American Airlines terminal at Ohare, would spend several hours flying, and get dumped off in Tucson. My mother would pick me; I’d deal with some financial matters, complete her 2023 taxes, laugh and joke for a few days, and return to Chicago.

Everything was on track until I went to use Ohare’s Admirals Club. There was no issue with getting in. “Club Card, Mr. UB?” I swiped, and I heard the ‘beep’. In I went. Did I notice the shoulder blade pain from left to right, then right to left while walking the terminal? Sure. It’s the same pain I experienced hundreds of times. ‘Attributed to osteoarthritis’ or ‘no problems now,’ my doctors would always claim. I decided to enter the bathroom. The stall was spacious and clean. The left side chest pain was immediate and sudden. Usually, when such pain occurs, the pain lasts five seconds at most. It didn’t.

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