According to Wayne Dryer, your soulmate is not the person who always agrees with you or shares all the same interests. Rather, it is the person who can say one thing, pushes your button and you go into a frenzy. That’s your soulmate. Supposedly, they’re teaching you in that moment that you have not mastered yourself.
I thought of Mr. Dyer last night as I sat in complete peace, interrupted only by the one ‘Dipstick’ who seemed to reach within me and just went ahead and “Made my Day.” It’s not that I became ravenous mad, but my personal psyche was whacked, like a compass losing true north. Sometimes, I think God is attempting to drive me insane, for there in the midst of my soul, I could easily summon painful cries of appeals to the Lord Jesus Christ and other dang spirit who would listen. Yet, letting go of the internal tirade, all I could muster was a plain old sigh. I titled my head, rolled my eyes and slowly rose from my version of a luxury skybox: a brown leather La-Z-Boy recliner.
From a Buddhist perspective I know that I am in control: that the ability lay within me to control almost any situation … that I can respond versus reacting. But like many of us, while I am less responsible in the presence of certain dipsticks, I am, nonetheless, responsible.
I’m not trying to convince anyone that dipsticks don’t exist, but this experience teaches me I must continually accept responsibility for all of my actions – my thoughts, words, and deeds. The world was not created for me and me alone. This is not only my schoolyard but it belongs to all. For good or bad, we are most uniquely interconnected and thus; there is no outside force that makes me behave individually stupid.
When faced with an inexplicable souldmate, it is important to remember that for some of people, life will never be right. The glass will always be half-empty. Others will not only see the glass half-empty, but god dang it, someone’s got a straw in there as well.
Maybe the meaning of it all is release. And by releasing, this person retains a sense of belonging and companionship. As Master Khan wisely pointed out, “Each man has the right to choose his enemies and his friends. He may choose unwisely, but the decision is his alone, to make. Then he must live with the consequences. And so must his enemies.” I am I say, “…so must his friends.’
When the glass is half-empty, release the stress and be willing, if possible, to refill it. Do what must be done with a tame heart.